|Sharon & Sean in happier times.|
But Sharon could never have imagined that pledge would hold true even after Sean’s death 13 years later — as she believes his GHOST now scares off her new lovers.
Sales assistant Sharon was 26, with two children from a previous relationship, when she met 24-year-old market trader Sean and became smitten.
Her world then came crashing down when he died of bronchial pneumonia, aged just 37.
After falling ill, he had told her that if he died he didn’t want her to date anyone else. But she had no idea how those words, and Sean himself, would come back to haunt her.
Five years since Sean’s death, Sharon, now 44, claims to have had three relationships dashed by her ex appearing from beyond the grave to give her fellas the frights of their lives.
She says he PULLED the hair of one lover, PINNED her to the bed so she couldn’t get up and answer the door to the same fella — and even APPEARED next to him on the sofa.
Sharon says she started to notice Sean’s ghost around their house soon after he died, before she began dating.
She insists she enjoys having him around because he was the love of her life but it is the meddling in her love life that she cannot stand.
Sharon says: “Sean was everything I could ever wish for in a man. He acted like a dad to my children from a previous marriage and gave the family stability and happiness. His death was a huge shock to me.
“He’d always said to me, ‘Sharon, we’ll be together for life, no one will ever come between us’, and I took comfort from that. I promised him I wouldn’t date anyone else if he died.
“But when he had passed away, I wasn’t sure I could live up to the promise I’d made him. I felt I had my whole life ahead of me.”
When the spooky goings-on started, Sharon knew it was Sean’s ghost playing the tricks.
She says: “Strange things were happening. When Sean was alive, he moved the pictures in our home and made them crooked — it was a joke because he knew that it drove me mad.
“A few months after he died I suddenly noticed that all the pictures would sometimes be wonky.
“I knew it was Sean telling me he was still there and, rather than being freaked out, I drew comfort from the fact he was still around. Straightening the photos, I would shout, ‘Sean, will you cut it out!’
“Occasionally I heard footsteps on the stairs. I knew that it was Sean and I just left him to it. There was no need to be scared.”
But Sharon then met a new man and brought him back to her home.
She says: “I made a meal and we opened a bottle of wine. It was quite romantic.
“It was a sad moment, as bringing a man home felt as though I was severing some link with Sean and moving on.
“But after eating we settled on the sofa and, as I went to kiss him, there was a crash in the kitchen and I heard footsteps run upstairs.
“I went into the kitchen and the plates we had eaten off were on the floor smashed.
“I could still hear footsteps upstairs and went up. I knew it was Sean. I went into my bedroom and snapped, ‘Don’t spoil this for me, Sean!’
"But the next time my boyfriend came round I was in the kitchen when he ran in and said, ‘Something has ruffled my hair and pulled it!’
“After that he refused to come round at night.
“But another day he was visiting and I heard him knock on the door. I tried to get up from my bed but couldn’t move.
“It felt like something was pinning me down and I had to say, ‘Get off me, Sean! Now!’
“After a struggle I was finally able to get up and answer the door.
“We dated for nearly a year, but for the last six months he refused to come to my house at all.”
The final straw came when Sharon opened her front door and it was then slammed back in her fella’s face.
Sharon says: “I had to tell him that it was the ghost of my ex and that it was something he would have to put up with. He went white as a sheet and the relationship ended soon after.”
Sharon was furious with Sean and shouted at him to leave her alone.
But he continued to stalk her life. She says: “He wouldn’t leave me alone.”
Two further relationships were then wrecked by Sean’s meddling — one with warehouse worker Dave Becket.
|Sharon with Sean and daughter from an earlier relationship|
“I was in the kitchen and the telly in the front room was off. But Dave suddenly went ashen and said he’d seen a reflection of himself in the blank TV screen — with someone sitting next to him.
“I tried to remain blasé and said it was Sean and he was harmless. But Dave downed his drink and told me he had to go.”
Dave finished the relationship the very next day. Sharon says: “Yet again my dead boyfriend had prevented me from seeing someone else.”
Spooked Dave, 37, confirmed the story and told The Sun: “I was totally freaked out. I could see on the TV screen the reflection of someone sitting next to me on the sofa.
“I’d never believed in ghosts until then. I’m not so sure now.
“It was weird. I just wanted to get out of there. Sharon was cool about it. I just didn’t want to go out with someone who was being haunted — but we’re still friends.”
After the break up with Dave, Sharon, of Blackburn, Lancs, was determined Sean would no longer hold her back — but his meddling has continued.
She says: “I dated a man late last year and we went to my place for a nightcap.
“We’d been there a couple of hours having a chat in the front room when I went into the kitchen to get us another drink.
“Suddenly I heard him run out of the front door and down the road. I shouted after him but he looked terrified and kept running.
"I don’t know what Sean did to this poor bloke, but he scared the living daylights out of him.
"I’ve still got his jacket — he hasn’t been back for it and because I’d only just met him I didn’t have a phone number for him.”
Sharon is now coming to terms with the fact Sean may always interfere in her relationships.
She says: “A friend of mine told me to get my place exorcised but I’m not sure I want to. Although Sean has been a pain, I do like having him around. A part of him is still here and I find that comforting.
“Some nights I’ll sit down on my own in the front room and chat to him. I know he’s there, I can feel his presence. I was never interested in ghosts and ghouls before Sean died and had no opinion on whether they existed. Now I know they do.
“I tell Sean I need that physical relationship with another man but it doesn’t mean I don’t still love him. I can be there for hours just chatting. I only hope Sean is listening.
“But he needs to let me get on with my life.”